Keep Your Blinders On

To be successful, keep your blinders on and focus on yourself. It is proven that deep focus helps narrow down your thoughts. You start to take more control over your own mind. The more you focus on you and your path, the happier you will be. This ties directly into not comparing yourself to others. That theme of comparison has unfortunately become easier due to social media being at the direct reach of our fingertips.

The ole saying goes, “You are your own thoughts”. What you focus on expands into your actual reality. No point in giving others attention if you aren’t paying attention to your own growth. Without a focus on you, there will be no process.

Challenge – Focus on yourself for the next 24 hours and see if you can spot a difference in your own personal grounding. Prioritize yourself with intention. Be obnoxious about it if you have to. See if you notice a difference.

Accepting Anger

Happy February, Bulls! New month, new week, new goals, new intentions, new result.

January is gone. If you didn’t achieve what you wanted to, don’t stress about it. We are working on being gentle on ourselves in 2021. Even if you had a kick ass January, let’s work on making this month an even better one. Momentum with your daily healthy habits, 1 of 12 is now in the books. Keep sharpening your physical and mental axe. What are some of your goals for February?

Today’s food for thought is geared toward controlling your emotions. Especially if you find yourself on edge with high anger tensions given the state of our world. I often times compare it to road rage anger. Where you feel stuck and on edge. Maybe you need to hear this advice, I know I do.

You know why athletes talk trash to each other? It is to provoke action and a rise of the opponent. Knock them off their game through anger. Try to remember that when you find yourself getting mad. Anger is not impressive or a form of toughness – it’s actually a mental weakness. Ever see Mike Tyson walk into a ring? Emotionless. Calm body and mind. He is one with his emotions. To me, that is far more terrifying than a crazed emotional outburst.

The Calm Before the Storm

Strength is the ability to maintain a hold of oneself. It’s being the person who never gets mad , who cannot be shaken or stirred, because they are in control of their passions – rather than controlled by their passions.

Five Tips for Controlling your Anger:

  • Think – “Am I still going to care about this in 5-10 minutes?”
  • Focus on your breath – When you’re angry your breathe gets quicker and sharper. Breathe deeply and slowly into your belly rather than your chest.
  • Get Moving – Regular exercise helps you decompress. Aerobic activity reduces stress which then helps improve your frustration tolerance
  • Repeat a calm word or mantra to yourself – Repeat this a couple times to get your mind fixated on something else.
  • Channel – Your energy goes where attention flows. Don’t keep feeding into a negative space.

Everyone works differently, but these are just five everyday tips you can use to help better your relationship with the infamous “anger”. I hope you were able to find this a bit useful and less of an management class.

Wishing you all an amazing month and rest of the week! Be on the lookout for more Flexibull content this week (maybe a vlog/podcast?) and please shoot me a follow on Instagram @wallstreetyoga

Be great!

Reignite

Sometimes life throws you curveballs that are completely out of your control. Yesterday I was broken the news that my grandfather had passed away unexpectedly in a car crash. I was absolutely devastated and broken given I have now lost both of my grandfathers in the last two months. It felt like I had the wind knocked out of my sails from a emotional perspective. I took the rest of the work day off and was able to take a nice walk along the beach. No music, no podcasts, just myself and the roommate upstairs. I was isolated with my own thoughts.

We have a set plan to go alongside our internal intentions. Sometimes you find yourself drifting away from some of your principles and beliefs that you hold yourself accountable on (especially 2021 self goals). It is perfectly fine and there is no room to beat yourself over it. It happens to all of us.

This is just a reminder to reignite your thoughts, reignite your principles, and most importantly… reignite your personal growth. The beauty of these principles is that you can return and embrace these things at any moment in time. What happened yesterday is the past. We can reignite our body and mind whenever we like. Why not take time to check in with yourself and do it right now?

I love you, Pat. Rest in peace.

Become Your Number One Fan

Our identity is wrapped up in what others think of us—or, more accurately, what we think others think of us.

Jay Shetty

Often times when we wake up and go throughout our day, we try to live up to what we think others think of us. We do this even at the expense of our own values. I want to say it is human nature to do so, but I don’t think it is. We have been programmed through social media to constantly be comparing ourselves to others. Applications like Facebook and Instagram are right at our finger tips at all times. Through these apps, you see Joe and Sally post 15 second highlights of their best lives. These people may or may not have consummate happiness, but for that brief amount of time when you click, we think so. Comparison is the thief of joy.

Sometimes you have to put your blinders on and filter out all the excess noise. The true way to building a meaningful life is to filter out all that outside chatter and look within. There is a lot going on in our country right now and I am not saying completely ignore the outside world / politics but you can’t let it dictate your life.

Become your own number one fan. Nobody believes in you as much as yourself. Be gentle and talk to yourself a bit more (it’s not that looney, I promise). While some thick skulled people will hate you for this, most people will love to make you part of their life to have a taste of that energy you have. Self belief is always the first step towards success. Waking up and attacking the day with this mindset will help separate you from the average person. Loving yourself = competitive life advantage? I’ll take that.

Happy Friday! Through the line, not to the line. Finish strong.

Brick By Brick

First work week of the new year. New year, new week, new goals, new energy, new failures, new results. Feet hit the floor today and I felt absolutely grateful. Woke up at 5am this morning and crushed a Peloton ride to start the work day (shoutout the homie Alex Toussaint). I am constantly trying to pitch the concept of making Mondays great again #MMGA. You can’t hate Mondays, they are 1/7 of your life. Pretty crazy when you think about it.

The ole saying goes, “Rome wasn’t built in a day”. This may be true BUT they were laying bricks every hour. That’s how I plan on building my 2021. Brick by brick. Get up and lay your bricks down today. Lay your foundation today so you can establish your floor plan for the week. Everyone likes the idea of building Rome, but how many are willing to lay the bricks every single day? If it was easy everyone would do it. Be fucking great and have an awesome week.

We Made It

Tommy “Fookin” Shelby

Today is the last day of 2020. I feel like any adjective I give this year would be an understatement. Look at the bright side of what the chaos of all 2020 has brought us though. A free masters degree in human behavioral studies and psychology! This year has been a real education in those things, for all of us. It’s a small consolation prize but a positive to take from things.

There are so many things I am personally thankful for. Using this pandemic has allowed me time for self exploration. Through this world wide “pause”, I was able to tap into myself.. physically, mentally and spiritually. I was able to find out what wasn’t working in my life. I was able to find the toxic patterns that were holding me back from living and being my best self. Part of me is a bit bummed this recognition hadn’t come sooner in my life, but part of me is also extremely happy I have discovered this before it was “too late” so to speak.

The OLD wants you to stay because misery loves company. Old habits, old beliefs, old friends, old mentality, old memories, old experiences, BUT remember… that OLD keys never open NEW doors. Do it for your NEW self. Divorce the OLD. Welcome the NEW. We are energy in motion. We have to keep evolving and changing form. It is scary, but please do not fear change.. Embrace it.

How to Crush your 2021 Resolutions:

  • Find a routine that works for YOU, then stick with it
  • Prioritize your goals
  • Think and dream big
  • Celebrate the small wins. Build momentum

Failing to plan is planning to fail.

I am excited for what the new year is going to bring. I am excited to bring my brand “Flexibull” to life. There is so much to be grateful for during this dark time. It is tough, but you have to shed the spotlight (think Broadway play!) on the things you DO have in life, and less on the things we DON’T have. You are your own thoughts. You are what you think(please see below diagram for visual). Your thoughts help create your reality, so be gentle on yourself!

Thank you all for reading and for supporting the blog. Big things to come in the 2021 for Flexibull. Going to give myself some personal deadlines so I can’t procrastinate 🙂 Wishing you all a happy and healthy new year! Be great.

Momentum Into 2021

“Life is growth. If we stop growing, techincally and spiritually, we are as good as dead.”

– Morihei Ueshiba

One of my biggest fears is being the same person I was last year. The great Albert Einstein used to say, ” The definition of insanity is repeating the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”. That can be carried into the new year. Removing old habits and patterns that didn’t work for you and readjusting your personal growth formula to become the best version of yourself. If you aren’t growing, you are dying.

If I commit to the progress I achieved this past year, I will have a kick ass 2021.

Great things never come from comfort zones. Often times, a lot of our personally growing comes from hands on mistakes made or being in an uncomfortable life position. Comfort zone is a place where many dreams go to die. I’d like to call it the “Growth Graveyard”. You can see a great view only when you climb the mountain(not a comfortable task). There is a lesson in there.

This year has literally been one for the history books. As we wind down to the final week of 2020, I find myself reflecting on these past 365 days. There is a ton to take away from and I couldn’t be more excited for this next year. I will make a post later this week on 2021 personal goals but I challenge you to take some time and ask yourself the below questions.

A thinking exercise:

What was a strength that worked for you? ex: Routine, exercise, social scene

What didn’t work for you? ex: Lack of consistency, spending habits

What habit/toxic pattern are you leaving behind? Eliminate a bad habit.

What healthy daily habits are you starting up? ex: Meditation, journal practice

Did you have a routine that worked? If not, start one.

Finish the week and the 2020 year strong! THROUGH the line, not TO the line. Let’s do it.

2020: A Year of Lessons Learned

This is going to sound a bit silly, but when I used to read through those old text books in middle school history class, I would have never thought I’d see myself as one of those pictures. This is silly because everything that isn’t the “now”, is history. It is the past. We are legitimately living in history. Every single day we wake up and our head hits the bed, we are part of history. This is truly an unprecedented time and one that will be talked about and illustrated through educational textbooks for generations to come. Netflix is most certainty already in the works for a documentary. So as December is quickly finishing up and our monumental year is coming to an end, I ask you…

What did you learn in 2020?

You are on your own. Self sufficiency is truly indispensable. With being self-sufficient comes taking certain matters into your own hand. Health is a big factor in that (as we are living in a virus pandemic). I invested in a WHOOP strap which has helped tremendously for providing 24/7 physiological data and getting to know my internal body better. No free ads, but I highly recommend it.

I have learned how important mental health is. This ties right along with choosing your habits wisely. These reflect strongly on your physical and mental fitness. Self-care is a priority, not a privilege.

I have also learned that people are very scared and that’s why we as a country have been easily forced to stay under control with no questions or push back. We are willingly and ready to go along with group/government pressure even if it means giving up some of your human rights in the midst of it. Freedom is not free and it should never be taken for granted.

I am thankful for starting my “Flexibull” brand. I have health, family, and good friends. I have learned that gratitude is a form of super power like the Hulk’s super strength. A little goes a long way. The world sucks right now and I would never sugar coat that. We are in a very devastating place as a country/world and unfortunately we are heading into a “dark winter” according to the top politicians and CDC officials. Remember that happiness is self-created. “Do not look for happiness outside yourself. The awakened seek happiness inside.”

Have an awesome end of the month and take time to reflect on the lessons you have learned this year!

Thursday Mood: RIDE THE WAVE

Poseidon – God of the sea, earthquakes and storms . Own the storms of your life. Show up and deal with the emotional day to day waves. DANCE IN THE MOTHA FUCKIN RAIN!

2020 is a lesson in not forcing things to happen. Work with the flow of energy rather than against it.

It really is unpredictable what life is going to throw at you. You wake up and wish for a great day, but can’t always control the uncontrollable (external events). Being able to deal with the highs and lows of the emotional coaster that comes with life is one of the biggest skills you can teach your mind to do. It is by no way easy. It is human nature to automatically act on emotion. Whether that be a good or a bad one

So I challenge you today to “RIDE THE WAVE”. If you are having a bad moment in time, remember… This will pass. For it is exactly that, just a moment in time. Sit with the feeling and remember that.

Act With Intention – Show Up

With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts. New week, new intentions, new goals, new aspirations, new results. Take what didn’t work for you last week and adjust this week. Show up today!

– Flexibull

Greatness is not an act, but a habit. Consistent hard work leads to excellence and success. Don’t care about perfection, care about showing up everyday!

The weather is getting colder as we are heading into the heart of winter and the days are becoming darker. Literally and also mentally. All everyone seems to be talking about is COVID and with access to news at the palm of our hands (literally), we consume these mental cigarettes on a daily basis. This is a blessing and curse. My father tested posted for COVID-19 over the weekend and although he is “younger” and relatively healthy, it is still very scary to think about especially when you hear all of the stories. Hoping he gets well soon! I don’t think it is delusional to say, focus on your bubble and ignore the outside factors. These numbers are going to spike, we are in peak sickness weather in general and we are also testing at the highest rates. It is just a numbers game at this point.

9 times out of 10 we are over complicating whatever issues we have at hand. Set goals and intentions for the week and work to personally obtain them. Make this a weekly little game with yourself and through that, you will develop daily healthy habits. Like I said above, consistent hard work leads to excellence and success.

Note to self: Everything is going to work out well for you. If you believe and stick to your process, this will work out well for you.

My intentions for the week:

BE ASSERTIVE – Whether it is deciding what you want to eat or movie to pick that night. Make the decision and stick with it. The more time you wait and stall the decision making process, the more anxiety you will have. BE DECISIVE.

Write in my planner/journal daily – This helps organize my thoughts and my days which then helps organize my mental clarity. Win win for everyone.

Be Confident and Secure – In my actions and words. Stop second guessing a text/email or replaying a conversation in your head. This only creates excess anxiety because it doesn’t matter anymore, the conversation exchange is over and nothing you think in your own head will change the outcome of the conversation. Think of it like taking an exam and then going home second guessing all of the answers you filled in that you were on the fence about. It will serve you no purpose, only struggle. Let it go and be confident in yourself.

These are the 3 main intentions I am focusing on this week December 7th to Sunday December 13th. Leave a comment on an intention you will be working on this week! Remember, build daily healthy habits and the rest will come.

Have a great week! Go be great. FLEXIBULL MENTALITY BABY!