Become Your Number One Fan

Our identity is wrapped up in what others think of us—or, more accurately, what we think others think of us.

Jay Shetty

Often times when we wake up and go throughout our day, we try to live up to what we think others think of us. We do this even at the expense of our own values. I want to say it is human nature to do so, but I don’t think it is. We have been programmed through social media to constantly be comparing ourselves to others. Applications like Facebook and Instagram are right at our finger tips at all times. Through these apps, you see Joe and Sally post 15 second highlights of their best lives. These people may or may not have consummate happiness, but for that brief amount of time when you click, we think so. Comparison is the thief of joy.

Sometimes you have to put your blinders on and filter out all the excess noise. The true way to building a meaningful life is to filter out all that outside chatter and look within. There is a lot going on in our country right now and I am not saying completely ignore the outside world / politics but you can’t let it dictate your life.

Become your own number one fan. Nobody believes in you as much as yourself. Be gentle and talk to yourself a bit more (it’s not that looney, I promise). While some thick skulled people will hate you for this, most people will love to make you part of their life to have a taste of that energy you have. Self belief is always the first step towards success. Waking up and attacking the day with this mindset will help separate you from the average person. Loving yourself = competitive life advantage? I’ll take that.

Happy Friday! Through the line, not to the line. Finish strong.

Brick By Brick

First work week of the new year. New year, new week, new goals, new energy, new failures, new results. Feet hit the floor today and I felt absolutely grateful. Woke up at 5am this morning and crushed a Peloton ride to start the work day (shoutout the homie Alex Toussaint). I am constantly trying to pitch the concept of making Mondays great again #MMGA. You can’t hate Mondays, they are 1/7 of your life. Pretty crazy when you think about it.

The ole saying goes, “Rome wasn’t built in a day”. This may be true BUT they were laying bricks every hour. That’s how I plan on building my 2021. Brick by brick. Get up and lay your bricks down today. Lay your foundation today so you can establish your floor plan for the week. Everyone likes the idea of building Rome, but how many are willing to lay the bricks every single day? If it was easy everyone would do it. Be fucking great and have an awesome week.

We Made It

Tommy “Fookin” Shelby

Today is the last day of 2020. I feel like any adjective I give this year would be an understatement. Look at the bright side of what the chaos of all 2020 has brought us though. A free masters degree in human behavioral studies and psychology! This year has been a real education in those things, for all of us. It’s a small consolation prize but a positive to take from things.

There are so many things I am personally thankful for. Using this pandemic has allowed me time for self exploration. Through this world wide “pause”, I was able to tap into myself.. physically, mentally and spiritually. I was able to find out what wasn’t working in my life. I was able to find the toxic patterns that were holding me back from living and being my best self. Part of me is a bit bummed this recognition hadn’t come sooner in my life, but part of me is also extremely happy I have discovered this before it was “too late” so to speak.

The OLD wants you to stay because misery loves company. Old habits, old beliefs, old friends, old mentality, old memories, old experiences, BUT remember… that OLD keys never open NEW doors. Do it for your NEW self. Divorce the OLD. Welcome the NEW. We are energy in motion. We have to keep evolving and changing form. It is scary, but please do not fear change.. Embrace it.

How to Crush your 2021 Resolutions:

  • Find a routine that works for YOU, then stick with it
  • Prioritize your goals
  • Think and dream big
  • Celebrate the small wins. Build momentum

Failing to plan is planning to fail.

I am excited for what the new year is going to bring. I am excited to bring my brand “Flexibull” to life. There is so much to be grateful for during this dark time. It is tough, but you have to shed the spotlight (think Broadway play!) on the things you DO have in life, and less on the things we DON’T have. You are your own thoughts. You are what you think(please see below diagram for visual). Your thoughts help create your reality, so be gentle on yourself!

Thank you all for reading and for supporting the blog. Big things to come in the 2021 for Flexibull. Going to give myself some personal deadlines so I can’t procrastinate 🙂 Wishing you all a happy and healthy new year! Be great.

Momentum Into 2021

“Life is growth. If we stop growing, techincally and spiritually, we are as good as dead.”

– Morihei Ueshiba

One of my biggest fears is being the same person I was last year. The great Albert Einstein used to say, ” The definition of insanity is repeating the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”. That can be carried into the new year. Removing old habits and patterns that didn’t work for you and readjusting your personal growth formula to become the best version of yourself. If you aren’t growing, you are dying.

If I commit to the progress I achieved this past year, I will have a kick ass 2021.

Great things never come from comfort zones. Often times, a lot of our personally growing comes from hands on mistakes made or being in an uncomfortable life position. Comfort zone is a place where many dreams go to die. I’d like to call it the “Growth Graveyard”. You can see a great view only when you climb the mountain(not a comfortable task). There is a lesson in there.

This year has literally been one for the history books. As we wind down to the final week of 2020, I find myself reflecting on these past 365 days. There is a ton to take away from and I couldn’t be more excited for this next year. I will make a post later this week on 2021 personal goals but I challenge you to take some time and ask yourself the below questions.

A thinking exercise:

What was a strength that worked for you? ex: Routine, exercise, social scene

What didn’t work for you? ex: Lack of consistency, spending habits

What habit/toxic pattern are you leaving behind? Eliminate a bad habit.

What healthy daily habits are you starting up? ex: Meditation, journal practice

Did you have a routine that worked? If not, start one.

Finish the week and the 2020 year strong! THROUGH the line, not TO the line. Let’s do it.

2020: A Year of Lessons Learned

This is going to sound a bit silly, but when I used to read through those old text books in middle school history class, I would have never thought I’d see myself as one of those pictures. This is silly because everything that isn’t the “now”, is history. It is the past. We are legitimately living in history. Every single day we wake up and our head hits the bed, we are part of history. This is truly an unprecedented time and one that will be talked about and illustrated through educational textbooks for generations to come. Netflix is most certainty already in the works for a documentary. So as December is quickly finishing up and our monumental year is coming to an end, I ask you…

What did you learn in 2020?

You are on your own. Self sufficiency is truly indispensable. With being self-sufficient comes taking certain matters into your own hand. Health is a big factor in that (as we are living in a virus pandemic). I invested in a WHOOP strap which has helped tremendously for providing 24/7 physiological data and getting to know my internal body better. No free ads, but I highly recommend it.

I have learned how important mental health is. This ties right along with choosing your habits wisely. These reflect strongly on your physical and mental fitness. Self-care is a priority, not a privilege.

I have also learned that people are very scared and that’s why we as a country have been easily forced to stay under control with no questions or push back. We are willingly and ready to go along with group/government pressure even if it means giving up some of your human rights in the midst of it. Freedom is not free and it should never be taken for granted.

I am thankful for starting my “Flexibull” brand. I have health, family, and good friends. I have learned that gratitude is a form of super power like the Hulk’s super strength. A little goes a long way. The world sucks right now and I would never sugar coat that. We are in a very devastating place as a country/world and unfortunately we are heading into a “dark winter” according to the top politicians and CDC officials. Remember that happiness is self-created. “Do not look for happiness outside yourself. The awakened seek happiness inside.”

Have an awesome end of the month and take time to reflect on the lessons you have learned this year!

Finish Strong – Happy December

“Almost any decision is better than no decision — just keep moving.” – Danielle LaPorte

Sometimes thinking too much can destroy momentum. Be decisive and show up!

Rabbit, Rabbit! Happy December, Bulls! Welcome to our final month in this bizarre year. Let’s finish strong. Take some time this week to set a powerful new intention on what you’d like to accomplish in 2021. These healthy intentions and aspects will help us formulate our goals and lend us the energy/guidelines we need to progress towards our dreams.

Momentum is very big. Think of your daily healthy habits as a snowball down a snowy hill (fitting for the winter season!). There is no better time to start your “2021 New Year’s Goals” than today.

Rewire Winter Blues Psyche

December is often a tough time for me mentally. The weather starts getting colder and the days start getting shorter. I have taken so much pride in my running practice since the start of the pandemic back in April. I hit another 100k running month in November. I want to find a way to keep that momentum up for the Spring, but realize it will be difficult in the cold weather. I have never been a winter runner before, but maybe this year is different? I am getting a Peloton towards the end of the month, and I have a tendency to get obsessive over things(try to channel that into a healthy obsession). Especially a community built for working out! There is something about being part of a group that wants to become the best version of themselves. You are your environment. You are who you surround yourself with. Excited to take a bit of break from my shoe to pavement running and start being part of the #SpinGang.

Take some time this week to sit with yourself and set some goals/ intentions you want to work with this month. They don’t need to be too complex and deep, but make sure you are able to do them. Don’t let it be a “challenge” or just a phase you will soon forget after this month. Focus on what we talked about above and build momentum towards the new year. Let’s have a great month!

Internal Mirror

2020 has been quite the year. Being in universal quarantine has given not just myself, but the whole world a time to really look at yourself in the mirror and self reflect on the last _ years of your life. You find out what has worked. You find out what hasn’t worked. You find out what tools you are going to use moving forward to come out of this pandemic stronger and a better version of yourself.

What is something you’ve learned about yourself over the last month?

Don’t just read that above question out loud. Really think and sit on that for a bit. Challenge yourself.

2020 has truly taught us the value of “time”. Kobe Bryant’s sudden death that shocked the world has heighted this value that we sometimes don’t always take the TIME (no pun intended) to stop and think about the concept. I have made it a point to know the true value of time. Life is too short to linger on problems and lose your courage over.

This Coronavirus is fucking horrible, BUT you have to find the small silver linings in tough situations like this virus has handcuffed us in. This virus has taught us the meaning of our priorities in life and what is truly important as we go through our day to days. Health, family and friends are just three of the many things in our life to be grateful for and not a day should go by where these are looked over or taken for granted(above paragraph for reference). We as a society have come to appreciate this more during the global lockdown. Crazy what can be taken away from you at any point in time. Even your own freedom to eat a damn burger inside!

So to answer the originally question, What is something you’ve learned about yourself over the last month?

I have learned to love myself more. I have learned to prioritize my health both physically and mentally. Using tools that were always there in my arsenal, but never seemed to utilize. I learned to put on my running shoes, chuck the airpods in (no free ads) and go for a run after work to decompress and compartmentalize my work days. This assures me that if I have a bad day at the office, I don’t bring it home with me and let it affect my 5:30pm on. I have learned to drink less with a conscious focus on moderation. The toxic social cycle of drinking two days a week and then going out heavy every weekend takes a massive toll on you mentally.

Like running, I have used the art of yoga to not only help me physically, but mentally AND spiritually. The work I put in on the mat gets reflected off the mat. I am not only benefiting myself, but everyone I interact with after! A true win win for everyone involved in my life. I find myself running around a lot (especially mentally), so yoga gives me an excellent carved out space in my day to slow my mind down and focus on being present in the flow practice. Also don’t hate the fact that I can feel myself becoming more flexible by the day! Yoga has so many benefits and I can’t recommend “Yoga with Adriene” enough (Check out her YouTube page). I have seen an increase in muscle strength and tone, better respiration and energy, and even a better sense of improved athletic performance. It pairs very well with my running practice.

Some people hate this year and the number sequence of “2020” gives them PTSD already, but I have enjoyed this time of self reflection. I strongly believe that I have become and will come out of this time a much better version of myself than I came in with.

2020 isn’t over yet, go finish it out strong and build daily healthy habits!