Everything is Change

“No man steps in the same river twice.” Because the river has changed, and so has the man. – Marcus Aurelius

Life is in a constant state of change, and so are we as human beings. To get upset by things is to wrongly assume that these moments in time will last. That type of thinking pattern is very toxic to the mental state. Work on being more kind and gentle towards your roommate living upstairs in that head of yours!

The only thing constant in a world of inconsistency is change. Bit trippy when you read that out loud a couple times. On the theme of working on controlling the controllable and not stressing about what we can’t control, I ask you this week, to embrace this concept. Flow with it. Everything is change.

Thank you reading and have an awesome Monday! Win the day.

Get Decisive

“The more decisive you are

the less anxiety you will feel.”

This correlation has been something I’ve been thinking on for a bit. Becoming more decisive has been a mental intention of mine and one that I have not personally been doing that great with. Whether it’s sending a text message/email or deciding plans, I can never make up my mind and ultimately end up victim to ole indecisiveness. This can sometimes be a crippling and extremely frustrating thought process when you are constantly having self doubt and questioning what you are saying when you are sending a message to someone.

Being decisive means that you can handle a fuck up. In other words, it means you can handle the decision of being wrong. Anxiety about decisions is tough for many people, but making a choice faster allows you to move on to something else and stop worrying. The more in tune you are with the “now”, the more decisive you will become. This can also tie back to past themes I have talked on about staying in the present moment (ironic sentence).

When we are making these decisions, we are in a mental spider-web of being stuck. Once we have a plan and start moving, anxiety disappears. Our brains don’t even care about the “quality” of the plan or choice, only that there is movement! Less action = more anxiety. Get out of that sticky spider web and get decisive with your thought action!

Internal Mirror

2020 has been quite the year. Being in universal quarantine has given not just myself, but the whole world a time to really look at yourself in the mirror and self reflect on the last _ years of your life. You find out what has worked. You find out what hasn’t worked. You find out what tools you are going to use moving forward to come out of this pandemic stronger and a better version of yourself.

What is something you’ve learned about yourself over the last month?

Don’t just read that above question out loud. Really think and sit on that for a bit. Challenge yourself.

2020 has truly taught us the value of “time”. Kobe Bryant’s sudden death that shocked the world has heighted this value that we sometimes don’t always take the TIME (no pun intended) to stop and think about the concept. I have made it a point to know the true value of time. Life is too short to linger on problems and lose your courage over.

This Coronavirus is fucking horrible, BUT you have to find the small silver linings in tough situations like this virus has handcuffed us in. This virus has taught us the meaning of our priorities in life and what is truly important as we go through our day to days. Health, family and friends are just three of the many things in our life to be grateful for and not a day should go by where these are looked over or taken for granted(above paragraph for reference). We as a society have come to appreciate this more during the global lockdown. Crazy what can be taken away from you at any point in time. Even your own freedom to eat a damn burger inside!

So to answer the originally question, What is something you’ve learned about yourself over the last month?

I have learned to love myself more. I have learned to prioritize my health both physically and mentally. Using tools that were always there in my arsenal, but never seemed to utilize. I learned to put on my running shoes, chuck the airpods in (no free ads) and go for a run after work to decompress and compartmentalize my work days. This assures me that if I have a bad day at the office, I don’t bring it home with me and let it affect my 5:30pm on. I have learned to drink less with a conscious focus on moderation. The toxic social cycle of drinking two days a week and then going out heavy every weekend takes a massive toll on you mentally.

Like running, I have used the art of yoga to not only help me physically, but mentally AND spiritually. The work I put in on the mat gets reflected off the mat. I am not only benefiting myself, but everyone I interact with after! A true win win for everyone involved in my life. I find myself running around a lot (especially mentally), so yoga gives me an excellent carved out space in my day to slow my mind down and focus on being present in the flow practice. Also don’t hate the fact that I can feel myself becoming more flexible by the day! Yoga has so many benefits and I can’t recommend “Yoga with Adriene” enough (Check out her YouTube page). I have seen an increase in muscle strength and tone, better respiration and energy, and even a better sense of improved athletic performance. It pairs very well with my running practice.

Some people hate this year and the number sequence of “2020” gives them PTSD already, but I have enjoyed this time of self reflection. I strongly believe that I have become and will come out of this time a much better version of myself than I came in with.

2020 isn’t over yet, go finish it out strong and build daily healthy habits!