Reignite

Sometimes life throws you curveballs that are completely out of your control. Yesterday I was broken the news that my grandfather had passed away unexpectedly in a car crash. I was absolutely devastated and broken given I have now lost both of my grandfathers in the last two months. It felt like I had the wind knocked out of my sails from a emotional perspective. I took the rest of the work day off and was able to take a nice walk along the beach. No music, no podcasts, just myself and the roommate upstairs. I was isolated with my own thoughts.

We have a set plan to go alongside our internal intentions. Sometimes you find yourself drifting away from some of your principles and beliefs that you hold yourself accountable on (especially 2021 self goals). It is perfectly fine and there is no room to beat yourself over it. It happens to all of us.

This is just a reminder to reignite your thoughts, reignite your principles, and most importantly… reignite your personal growth. The beauty of these principles is that you can return and embrace these things at any moment in time. What happened yesterday is the past. We can reignite our body and mind whenever we like. Why not take time to check in with yourself and do it right now?

I love you, Pat. Rest in peace.

We Made It

Tommy “Fookin” Shelby

Today is the last day of 2020. I feel like any adjective I give this year would be an understatement. Look at the bright side of what the chaos of all 2020 has brought us though. A free masters degree in human behavioral studies and psychology! This year has been a real education in those things, for all of us. It’s a small consolation prize but a positive to take from things.

There are so many things I am personally thankful for. Using this pandemic has allowed me time for self exploration. Through this world wide “pause”, I was able to tap into myself.. physically, mentally and spiritually. I was able to find out what wasn’t working in my life. I was able to find the toxic patterns that were holding me back from living and being my best self. Part of me is a bit bummed this recognition hadn’t come sooner in my life, but part of me is also extremely happy I have discovered this before it was “too late” so to speak.

The OLD wants you to stay because misery loves company. Old habits, old beliefs, old friends, old mentality, old memories, old experiences, BUT remember… that OLD keys never open NEW doors. Do it for your NEW self. Divorce the OLD. Welcome the NEW. We are energy in motion. We have to keep evolving and changing form. It is scary, but please do not fear change.. Embrace it.

How to Crush your 2021 Resolutions:

  • Find a routine that works for YOU, then stick with it
  • Prioritize your goals
  • Think and dream big
  • Celebrate the small wins. Build momentum

Failing to plan is planning to fail.

I am excited for what the new year is going to bring. I am excited to bring my brand “Flexibull” to life. There is so much to be grateful for during this dark time. It is tough, but you have to shed the spotlight (think Broadway play!) on the things you DO have in life, and less on the things we DON’T have. You are your own thoughts. You are what you think(please see below diagram for visual). Your thoughts help create your reality, so be gentle on yourself!

Thank you all for reading and for supporting the blog. Big things to come in the 2021 for Flexibull. Going to give myself some personal deadlines so I can’t procrastinate 🙂 Wishing you all a happy and healthy new year! Be great.

2020: A Year of Lessons Learned

This is going to sound a bit silly, but when I used to read through those old text books in middle school history class, I would have never thought I’d see myself as one of those pictures. This is silly because everything that isn’t the “now”, is history. It is the past. We are legitimately living in history. Every single day we wake up and our head hits the bed, we are part of history. This is truly an unprecedented time and one that will be talked about and illustrated through educational textbooks for generations to come. Netflix is most certainty already in the works for a documentary. So as December is quickly finishing up and our monumental year is coming to an end, I ask you…

What did you learn in 2020?

You are on your own. Self sufficiency is truly indispensable. With being self-sufficient comes taking certain matters into your own hand. Health is a big factor in that (as we are living in a virus pandemic). I invested in a WHOOP strap which has helped tremendously for providing 24/7 physiological data and getting to know my internal body better. No free ads, but I highly recommend it.

I have learned how important mental health is. This ties right along with choosing your habits wisely. These reflect strongly on your physical and mental fitness. Self-care is a priority, not a privilege.

I have also learned that people are very scared and that’s why we as a country have been easily forced to stay under control with no questions or push back. We are willingly and ready to go along with group/government pressure even if it means giving up some of your human rights in the midst of it. Freedom is not free and it should never be taken for granted.

I am thankful for starting my “Flexibull” brand. I have health, family, and good friends. I have learned that gratitude is a form of super power like the Hulk’s super strength. A little goes a long way. The world sucks right now and I would never sugar coat that. We are in a very devastating place as a country/world and unfortunately we are heading into a “dark winter” according to the top politicians and CDC officials. Remember that happiness is self-created. “Do not look for happiness outside yourself. The awakened seek happiness inside.”

Have an awesome end of the month and take time to reflect on the lessons you have learned this year!

Act With Intention – Show Up

With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts. New week, new intentions, new goals, new aspirations, new results. Take what didn’t work for you last week and adjust this week. Show up today!

– Flexibull

Greatness is not an act, but a habit. Consistent hard work leads to excellence and success. Don’t care about perfection, care about showing up everyday!

The weather is getting colder as we are heading into the heart of winter and the days are becoming darker. Literally and also mentally. All everyone seems to be talking about is COVID and with access to news at the palm of our hands (literally), we consume these mental cigarettes on a daily basis. This is a blessing and curse. My father tested posted for COVID-19 over the weekend and although he is “younger” and relatively healthy, it is still very scary to think about especially when you hear all of the stories. Hoping he gets well soon! I don’t think it is delusional to say, focus on your bubble and ignore the outside factors. These numbers are going to spike, we are in peak sickness weather in general and we are also testing at the highest rates. It is just a numbers game at this point.

9 times out of 10 we are over complicating whatever issues we have at hand. Set goals and intentions for the week and work to personally obtain them. Make this a weekly little game with yourself and through that, you will develop daily healthy habits. Like I said above, consistent hard work leads to excellence and success.

Note to self: Everything is going to work out well for you. If you believe and stick to your process, this will work out well for you.

My intentions for the week:

BE ASSERTIVE – Whether it is deciding what you want to eat or movie to pick that night. Make the decision and stick with it. The more time you wait and stall the decision making process, the more anxiety you will have. BE DECISIVE.

Write in my planner/journal daily – This helps organize my thoughts and my days which then helps organize my mental clarity. Win win for everyone.

Be Confident and Secure – In my actions and words. Stop second guessing a text/email or replaying a conversation in your head. This only creates excess anxiety because it doesn’t matter anymore, the conversation exchange is over and nothing you think in your own head will change the outcome of the conversation. Think of it like taking an exam and then going home second guessing all of the answers you filled in that you were on the fence about. It will serve you no purpose, only struggle. Let it go and be confident in yourself.

These are the 3 main intentions I am focusing on this week December 7th to Sunday December 13th. Leave a comment on an intention you will be working on this week! Remember, build daily healthy habits and the rest will come.

Have a great week! Go be great. FLEXIBULL MENTALITY BABY!

Finish Strong – Happy December

“Almost any decision is better than no decision — just keep moving.” – Danielle LaPorte

Sometimes thinking too much can destroy momentum. Be decisive and show up!

Rabbit, Rabbit! Happy December, Bulls! Welcome to our final month in this bizarre year. Let’s finish strong. Take some time this week to set a powerful new intention on what you’d like to accomplish in 2021. These healthy intentions and aspects will help us formulate our goals and lend us the energy/guidelines we need to progress towards our dreams.

Momentum is very big. Think of your daily healthy habits as a snowball down a snowy hill (fitting for the winter season!). There is no better time to start your “2021 New Year’s Goals” than today.

Rewire Winter Blues Psyche

December is often a tough time for me mentally. The weather starts getting colder and the days start getting shorter. I have taken so much pride in my running practice since the start of the pandemic back in April. I hit another 100k running month in November. I want to find a way to keep that momentum up for the Spring, but realize it will be difficult in the cold weather. I have never been a winter runner before, but maybe this year is different? I am getting a Peloton towards the end of the month, and I have a tendency to get obsessive over things(try to channel that into a healthy obsession). Especially a community built for working out! There is something about being part of a group that wants to become the best version of themselves. You are your environment. You are who you surround yourself with. Excited to take a bit of break from my shoe to pavement running and start being part of the #SpinGang.

Take some time this week to sit with yourself and set some goals/ intentions you want to work with this month. They don’t need to be too complex and deep, but make sure you are able to do them. Don’t let it be a “challenge” or just a phase you will soon forget after this month. Focus on what we talked about above and build momentum towards the new year. Let’s have a great month!

Everything is Change

“No man steps in the same river twice.” Because the river has changed, and so has the man. – Marcus Aurelius

Life is in a constant state of change, and so are we as human beings. To get upset by things is to wrongly assume that these moments in time will last. That type of thinking pattern is very toxic to the mental state. Work on being more kind and gentle towards your roommate living upstairs in that head of yours!

The only thing constant in a world of inconsistency is change. Bit trippy when you read that out loud a couple times. On the theme of working on controlling the controllable and not stressing about what we can’t control, I ask you this week, to embrace this concept. Flow with it. Everything is change.

Thank you reading and have an awesome Monday! Win the day.

Rabbit Rabbit

Happy November! There is something about the start of a new month. The seasons are shifting and the leaves are starting to turn. We turned back the clocks last night so it’s going to get darker around 4:30pm now. This has always been a challenge for me and sometimes I self diagnose myself with SAD (Season Affective Disorder). This year I am excited to use little tools and habits to combat the ole seasonal blues. It doesn’t hurt that I can see the Atlantic Ocean from my living room! There is something to say about that from a psychological aspect seeing such a naturally large body of water. Humbles and helps put certain things in perspective. November is going to get politically hectic, I am aware of this but some of this stuff I can’t control and I don’t want the uncontrollable holding me prisoner and affecting my day to day life. It still is important to be involved and aware of what is going on in our country… crazy times the United States is going through right now. Unfortunately, this is the most divided I have seen our country. Hopefully we can find a happy balance. This month I will be conscious about controlling what I can control. That is one of my few main themes for November.

New Months, new goals, new intentions, new mindset , new focus, new results! Even though I find myself growing and getting better, there can always be progress and and healthy life advancements.

Let’s have a great month!

PS- First “Flexibull” podcast dropping this week. Also have some new cool stuff coming this month for the brand. Stay tuned.

Internal Mirror

2020 has been quite the year. Being in universal quarantine has given not just myself, but the whole world a time to really look at yourself in the mirror and self reflect on the last _ years of your life. You find out what has worked. You find out what hasn’t worked. You find out what tools you are going to use moving forward to come out of this pandemic stronger and a better version of yourself.

What is something you’ve learned about yourself over the last month?

Don’t just read that above question out loud. Really think and sit on that for a bit. Challenge yourself.

2020 has truly taught us the value of “time”. Kobe Bryant’s sudden death that shocked the world has heighted this value that we sometimes don’t always take the TIME (no pun intended) to stop and think about the concept. I have made it a point to know the true value of time. Life is too short to linger on problems and lose your courage over.

This Coronavirus is fucking horrible, BUT you have to find the small silver linings in tough situations like this virus has handcuffed us in. This virus has taught us the meaning of our priorities in life and what is truly important as we go through our day to days. Health, family and friends are just three of the many things in our life to be grateful for and not a day should go by where these are looked over or taken for granted(above paragraph for reference). We as a society have come to appreciate this more during the global lockdown. Crazy what can be taken away from you at any point in time. Even your own freedom to eat a damn burger inside!

So to answer the originally question, What is something you’ve learned about yourself over the last month?

I have learned to love myself more. I have learned to prioritize my health both physically and mentally. Using tools that were always there in my arsenal, but never seemed to utilize. I learned to put on my running shoes, chuck the airpods in (no free ads) and go for a run after work to decompress and compartmentalize my work days. This assures me that if I have a bad day at the office, I don’t bring it home with me and let it affect my 5:30pm on. I have learned to drink less with a conscious focus on moderation. The toxic social cycle of drinking two days a week and then going out heavy every weekend takes a massive toll on you mentally.

Like running, I have used the art of yoga to not only help me physically, but mentally AND spiritually. The work I put in on the mat gets reflected off the mat. I am not only benefiting myself, but everyone I interact with after! A true win win for everyone involved in my life. I find myself running around a lot (especially mentally), so yoga gives me an excellent carved out space in my day to slow my mind down and focus on being present in the flow practice. Also don’t hate the fact that I can feel myself becoming more flexible by the day! Yoga has so many benefits and I can’t recommend “Yoga with Adriene” enough (Check out her YouTube page). I have seen an increase in muscle strength and tone, better respiration and energy, and even a better sense of improved athletic performance. It pairs very well with my running practice.

Some people hate this year and the number sequence of “2020” gives them PTSD already, but I have enjoyed this time of self reflection. I strongly believe that I have become and will come out of this time a much better version of myself than I came in with.

2020 isn’t over yet, go finish it out strong and build daily healthy habits!