Brick By Brick

First work week of the new year. New year, new week, new goals, new energy, new failures, new results. Feet hit the floor today and I felt absolutely grateful. Woke up at 5am this morning and crushed a Peloton ride to start the work day (shoutout the homie Alex Toussaint). I am constantly trying to pitch the concept of making Mondays great again #MMGA. You can’t hate Mondays, they are 1/7 of your life. Pretty crazy when you think about it.

The ole saying goes, “Rome wasn’t built in a dayโ€. This may be true BUT they were laying bricks every hour. That’s how I plan on building my 2021. Brick by brick. Get up and lay your bricks down today. Lay your foundation today so you can establish your floor plan for the week. Everyone likes the idea of building Rome, but how many are willing to lay the bricks every single day? If it was easy everyone would do it. Be fucking great and have an awesome week.

We Made It

Tommy “Fookin” Shelby

Today is the last day of 2020. I feel like any adjective I give this year would be an understatement. Look at the bright side of what the chaos of all 2020 has brought us though. A free masters degree in human behavioral studies and psychology! This year has been a real education in those things, for all of us. It’s a small consolation prize but a positive to take from things.

There are so many things I am personally thankful for. Using this pandemic has allowed me time for self exploration. Through this world wide “pause”, I was able to tap into myself.. physically, mentally and spiritually. I was able to find out what wasn’t working in my life. I was able to find the toxic patterns that were holding me back from living and being my best self. Part of me is a bit bummed this recognition hadn’t come sooner in my life, but part of me is also extremely happy I have discovered this before it was “too late” so to speak.

The OLD wants you to stay because misery loves company. Old habits, old beliefs, old friends, old mentality, old memories, old experiences, BUT remember… that OLD keys never open NEW doors. Do it for your NEW self. Divorce the OLD. Welcome the NEW. We are energy in motion. We have to keep evolving and changing form. It is scary, but please do not fear change.. Embrace it.

How to Crush your 2021 Resolutions:

  • Find a routine that works for YOU, then stick with it
  • Prioritize your goals
  • Think and dream big
  • Celebrate the small wins. Build momentum

Failing to plan is planning to fail.

I am excited for what the new year is going to bring. I am excited to bring my brand “Flexibull” to life. There is so much to be grateful for during this dark time. It is tough, but you have to shed the spotlight (think Broadway play!) on the things you DO have in life, and less on the things we DON’T have. You are your own thoughts. You are what you think(please see below diagram for visual). Your thoughts help create your reality, so be gentle on yourself!

Thank you all for reading and for supporting the blog. Big things to come in the 2021 for Flexibull. Going to give myself some personal deadlines so I can’t procrastinate ๐Ÿ™‚ Wishing you all a happy and healthy new year! Be great.

Momentum Into 2021

“Life is growth. If we stop growing, techincally and spiritually, we are as good as dead.”

– Morihei Ueshiba

One of my biggest fears is being the same person I was last year. The great Albert Einstein used to say, ” The definition of insanity is repeating the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”. That can be carried into the new year. Removing old habits and patterns that didn’t work for you and readjusting your personal growth formula to become the best version of yourself. If you aren’t growing, you are dying.

If I commit to the progress I achieved this past year, I will have a kick ass 2021.

Great things never come from comfort zones. Often times, a lot of our personally growing comes from hands on mistakes made or being in an uncomfortable life position. Comfort zone is a place where many dreams go to die. I’d like to call it the “Growth Graveyard”. You can see a great view only when you climb the mountain(not a comfortable task). There is a lesson in there.

This year has literally been one for the history books. As we wind down to the final week of 2020, I find myself reflecting on these past 365 days. There is a ton to take away from and I couldn’t be more excited for this next year. I will make a post later this week on 2021 personal goals but I challenge you to take some time and ask yourself the below questions.

A thinking exercise:

What was a strength that worked for you? ex: Routine, exercise, social scene

What didn’t work for you? ex: Lack of consistency, spending habits

What habit/toxic pattern are you leaving behind? Eliminate a bad habit.

What healthy daily habits are you starting up? ex: Meditation, journal practice

Did you have a routine that worked? If not, start one.

Finish the week and the 2020 year strong! THROUGH the line, not TO the line. Let’s do it.

2020: A Year of Lessons Learned

This is going to sound a bit silly, but when I used to read through those old text books in middle school history class, I would have never thought I’d see myself as one of those pictures. This is silly because everything that isn’t the “now”, is history. It is the past. We are legitimately living in history. Every single day we wake up and our head hits the bed, we are part of history. This is truly an unprecedented time and one that will be talked about and illustrated through educational textbooks for generations to come. Netflix is most certainty already in the works for a documentary. So as December is quickly finishing up and our monumental year is coming to an end, I ask you…

What did you learn in 2020?

You are on your own. Self sufficiency is truly indispensable. With being self-sufficient comes taking certain matters into your own hand. Health is a big factor in that (as we are living in a virus pandemic). I invested in a WHOOP strap which has helped tremendously for providing 24/7 physiological data and getting to know my internal body better. No free ads, but I highly recommend it.

I have learned how important mental health is. This ties right along with choosing your habits wisely. These reflect strongly on your physical and mental fitness. Self-care is a priority, not a privilege.

I have also learned that people are very scared and that’s why we as a country have been easily forced to stay under control with no questions or push back. We are willingly and ready to go along with group/government pressure even if it means giving up some of your human rights in the midst of it. Freedom is not free and it should never be taken for granted.

I am thankful for starting my “Flexibull” brand. I have health, family, and good friends. I have learned that gratitude is a form of super power like the Hulk’s super strength. A little goes a long way. The world sucks right now and I would never sugar coat that. We are in a very devastating place as a country/world and unfortunately we are heading into a “dark winter” according to the top politicians and CDC officials. Remember that happiness is self-created. “Do not look for happiness outside yourself. The awakened seek happiness inside.”

Have an awesome end of the month and take time to reflect on the lessons you have learned this year!

Thursday Mood: RIDE THE WAVE

Poseidon – God of the sea, earthquakes and storms . Own the storms of your life. Show up and deal with the emotional day to day waves. DANCE IN THE MOTHA FUCKIN RAIN!

2020 is a lesson in not forcing things to happen. Work with the flow of energy rather than against it.

It really is unpredictable what life is going to throw at you. You wake up and wish for a great day, but can’t always control the uncontrollable (external events). Being able to deal with the highs and lows of the emotional coaster that comes with life is one of the biggest skills you can teach your mind to do. It is by no way easy. It is human nature to automatically act on emotion. Whether that be a good or a bad one

So I challenge you today to “RIDE THE WAVE”. If you are having a bad moment in time, remember… This will pass. For it is exactly that, just a moment in time. Sit with the feeling and remember that.

Bring Back Fat Shaming

*DISCLAIMER – HOT TAKE*

(This picture was taken in 1976 Florida, so cocaine diet could have had an effect)

Picture of the United States beach in the 70s. Not one fat body. Minimal sugar, no refined carbs, nothing to do outside, plenty to do inside. I truly believe someday we will look at modern day food and think of it like we do cigarettes. Over eating is as bad as smoking. Look at the picture above (again read my side note of possible factor of body weights). No Netflix, no additive sugary Starbucks drinks, no screens in sight. Our society of excess everything is the path to the downfall of many right now. Addiction to porn, drinking, drugs, smart phones etc.. We are losing our sense of moderation and it is a slow self-destructor.

Hot take, but we should bring back fat shaming.

Obesity, diabetes, heart disease.. are all connected and kill more people in our country annually than all other ailments combined. But we are not allowed to talk about this? Imagine creating a vaccine for obesity? What a world.

Maybe WALL-E (2008) was onto something… Heading in this direction.

The real pandemic today is obesity. Closing indoor dining will only promote more fast food / grab and go (chain) restaurants even more. Did you see McDonalds brought back the McRib?! Should be a crime to bring that bad boy back during a pandemic. Instead of closing gyms, close down McDonalds!

Society is going backwards with:

  • Body positive
  • Participation trophies
  • Fighting over who is the biggest victim
  • Lack of personal accountability
  • Fad diets
  • Convince

All of the above list have massive factors in our 43.6% obesity rate (cdc.gov).

We know that being obese is destructive to our own personal health, yet people keep saying ” being fat is ok, stop fat shaming!!”

Fuck that. Being fat is mediocre. Life is too short to be mediocre. Take care of yourself and your body will thank you. Take your weight and health into your own hands. Hold yourself accountable and let the benefits follow.

Everyone has the right to live however they want. This has just been a topic I have been thinking about more and more since health has come more to light in this country.

Disclaimer – If you are on medication that effects your health, this is no way applies to you.

Finish Strong – Happy December

โ€œAlmost any decision is better than no decision โ€” just keep moving.โ€ โ€“ Danielle LaPorte

Sometimes thinking too much can destroy momentum. Be decisive and show up!

Rabbit, Rabbit! Happy December, Bulls! Welcome to our final month in this bizarre year. Let’s finish strong. Take some time this week to set a powerful new intention on what you’d like to accomplish in 2021. These healthy intentions and aspects will help us formulate our goals and lend us the energy/guidelines we need to progress towards our dreams.

Momentum is very big. Think of your daily healthy habits as a snowball down a snowy hill (fitting for the winter season!). There is no better time to start your “2021 New Year’s Goals” than today.

Rewire Winter Blues Psyche

December is often a tough time for me mentally. The weather starts getting colder and the days start getting shorter. I have taken so much pride in my running practice since the start of the pandemic back in April. I hit another 100k running month in November. I want to find a way to keep that momentum up for the Spring, but realize it will be difficult in the cold weather. I have never been a winter runner before, but maybe this year is different? I am getting a Peloton towards the end of the month, and I have a tendency to get obsessive over things(try to channel that into a healthy obsession). Especially a community built for working out! There is something about being part of a group that wants to become the best version of themselves. You are your environment. You are who you surround yourself with. Excited to take a bit of break from my shoe to pavement running and start being part of the #SpinGang.

Take some time this week to sit with yourself and set some goals/ intentions you want to work with this month. They don’t need to be too complex and deep, but make sure you are able to do them. Don’t let it be a “challenge” or just a phase you will soon forget after this month. Focus on what we talked about above and build momentum towards the new year. Let’s have a great month!

VIDEO: MESSAGE OF THE DAY

Yesterday, I was able to get to the beach. Working in an office from dark to dark, I knew that this was probably going to be the last time I hit the beach before the Spring of 2021. So, I put my wetsuit on and got the good vibes going. This message of being grateful and staying present will also be a nice mindset to lean on today. Have a great start to the week. Have a great end of the month. Cheers!

Thanksgiving Week

Happy Monday, Bulls! It is Thanksgiving week. Monday equals, new week, new intentions, new goals, new results. It is a time to reflect on what didn’t work last week, and learn from that. Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting the same results is the true definition of “insanity”, the legendary Albert Einstein once said. CHANGE IT UP, if you had a shitty last week. If you don’t learn the lesson, you are doomed to repeat the mistake.

Some themes to focus on this week:

Act with intention – Be conscious of the way you are showing up. Make consistent action to make the things you want happen. Make decisions and take actions that are consistent with your goals and values.

Be gentle on yourself – Make a mistake? Short term memory. Get the next one. If you beat yourself up over your day to day mistakes, you are going to make yourself sick. Let it go! Life is too short to sit on these things for too long.

Be Present – Freedom of past success, freedom from past failures. Not letting the past define who you are in this present moment, not letting the fear of the future (anxiety) steer you off your present path. Do not let a shitty moment in time affect you’re whole day/week. It is just a moment in time, treat it as so. Obviously easier said than done, but practice this mindset and help rewire the brain. A little goes a long way. Be where you are. Be present.

And last but not least, BE THANKFUL – Fitting for Thanksgiving week. We often times shine light on things that we don’t have in life, and don’t give enough attention to the things we do have. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never have enough. Especially during this global dark time of COVID-19, we must appreciate all that we have because we have seen how fast it can be taken away from us. Think about the luxury of indoor dining, visiting grandparents, family visitation restriction. Find little victories and silver linings.

Be thankful for what you have and you will end up having more. I will leave you with a quote from Charles Dickens, “Reflect upon your present blessings- of which every man has many – not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.” Perfect little quote embracing our above themes of both gratitude and present.

Have an awesome Monday and make it a great week!

QOTD: Fear of Failure

Question of the Day: Do you let your fear of failure stop you from giving your best?

This is a new segment I am going to implement one to two times a week on this blog. It gives not only myself, but you guys as the readers a chance to ask yourself these deep and often times complex questions. That question is only one sentence and thirteen words, but it has already sparked much emotion and thought flow in my mind. Doing these early in the morning can give your brain a little jump start you may need that day. It doesn’t hurt to connect with your inner emotions and ask yourself these things.

Do you let your fear of failure stop you from giving your best?

No. The fear of personal failure has never stopped me from giving my best on a day to day basis. Other non-controllable have though such as a lack of confidence, not being assertive and a lack of focus.

That being said, I hate failure. I am extremely tough on myself and maybe that comes from being coached at the highest levels from my childhood through college. It is the way my brain works and sometimes it is counter productive when I am not gentle on myself. Sometimes the fear of failing through taking a huge life risk can enter my thought process and that can tie into the fear of failure stopping me from giving my best because I have the fear of leaving my comfort zone. This can be career, relationships, routines, habits etc.. It is completely normal to be afraid of failing. Just make sure when you fail, you fail upwards ๐Ÿ™‚

As long as you stay self aware about your own fears and failure, you will be able to navigate these waters more smoothly.