Keep Your Blinders On

To be successful, keep your blinders on and focus on yourself. It is proven that deep focus helps narrow down your thoughts. You start to take more control over your own mind. The more you focus on you and your path, the happier you will be. This ties directly into not comparing yourself to others. That theme of comparison has unfortunately become easier due to social media being at the direct reach of our fingertips.

The ole saying goes, “You are your own thoughts”. What you focus on expands into your actual reality. No point in giving others attention if you aren’t paying attention to your own growth. Without a focus on you, there will be no process.

Challenge – Focus on yourself for the next 24 hours and see if you can spot a difference in your own personal grounding. Prioritize yourself with intention. Be obnoxious about it if you have to. See if you notice a difference.

Accepting Anger

Happy February, Bulls! New month, new week, new goals, new intentions, new result.

January is gone. If you didn’t achieve what you wanted to, don’t stress about it. We are working on being gentle on ourselves in 2021. Even if you had a kick ass January, let’s work on making this month an even better one. Momentum with your daily healthy habits, 1 of 12 is now in the books. Keep sharpening your physical and mental axe. What are some of your goals for February?

Today’s food for thought is geared toward controlling your emotions. Especially if you find yourself on edge with high anger tensions given the state of our world. I often times compare it to road rage anger. Where you feel stuck and on edge. Maybe you need to hear this advice, I know I do.

You know why athletes talk trash to each other? It is to provoke action and a rise of the opponent. Knock them off their game through anger. Try to remember that when you find yourself getting mad. Anger is not impressive or a form of toughness – it’s actually a mental weakness. Ever see Mike Tyson walk into a ring? Emotionless. Calm body and mind. He is one with his emotions. To me, that is far more terrifying than a crazed emotional outburst.

The Calm Before the Storm

Strength is the ability to maintain a hold of oneself. It’s being the person who never gets mad , who cannot be shaken or stirred, because they are in control of their passions – rather than controlled by their passions.

Five Tips for Controlling your Anger:

  • Think – “Am I still going to care about this in 5-10 minutes?”
  • Focus on your breath – When you’re angry your breathe gets quicker and sharper. Breathe deeply and slowly into your belly rather than your chest.
  • Get Moving – Regular exercise helps you decompress. Aerobic activity reduces stress which then helps improve your frustration tolerance
  • Repeat a calm word or mantra to yourself – Repeat this a couple times to get your mind fixated on something else.
  • Channel – Your energy goes where attention flows. Don’t keep feeding into a negative space.

Everyone works differently, but these are just five everyday tips you can use to help better your relationship with the infamous “anger”. I hope you were able to find this a bit useful and less of an management class.

Wishing you all an amazing month and rest of the week! Be on the lookout for more Flexibull content this week (maybe a vlog/podcast?) and please shoot me a follow on Instagram @wallstreetyoga

Be great!

We Made It

Tommy “Fookin” Shelby

Today is the last day of 2020. I feel like any adjective I give this year would be an understatement. Look at the bright side of what the chaos of all 2020 has brought us though. A free masters degree in human behavioral studies and psychology! This year has been a real education in those things, for all of us. It’s a small consolation prize but a positive to take from things.

There are so many things I am personally thankful for. Using this pandemic has allowed me time for self exploration. Through this world wide “pause”, I was able to tap into myself.. physically, mentally and spiritually. I was able to find out what wasn’t working in my life. I was able to find the toxic patterns that were holding me back from living and being my best self. Part of me is a bit bummed this recognition hadn’t come sooner in my life, but part of me is also extremely happy I have discovered this before it was “too late” so to speak.

The OLD wants you to stay because misery loves company. Old habits, old beliefs, old friends, old mentality, old memories, old experiences, BUT remember… that OLD keys never open NEW doors. Do it for your NEW self. Divorce the OLD. Welcome the NEW. We are energy in motion. We have to keep evolving and changing form. It is scary, but please do not fear change.. Embrace it.

How to Crush your 2021 Resolutions:

  • Find a routine that works for YOU, then stick with it
  • Prioritize your goals
  • Think and dream big
  • Celebrate the small wins. Build momentum

Failing to plan is planning to fail.

I am excited for what the new year is going to bring. I am excited to bring my brand “Flexibull” to life. There is so much to be grateful for during this dark time. It is tough, but you have to shed the spotlight (think Broadway play!) on the things you DO have in life, and less on the things we DON’T have. You are your own thoughts. You are what you think(please see below diagram for visual). Your thoughts help create your reality, so be gentle on yourself!

Thank you all for reading and for supporting the blog. Big things to come in the 2021 for Flexibull. Going to give myself some personal deadlines so I can’t procrastinate 🙂 Wishing you all a happy and healthy new year! Be great.

Thursday Mood: RIDE THE WAVE

Poseidon – God of the sea, earthquakes and storms . Own the storms of your life. Show up and deal with the emotional day to day waves. DANCE IN THE MOTHA FUCKIN RAIN!

2020 is a lesson in not forcing things to happen. Work with the flow of energy rather than against it.

It really is unpredictable what life is going to throw at you. You wake up and wish for a great day, but can’t always control the uncontrollable (external events). Being able to deal with the highs and lows of the emotional coaster that comes with life is one of the biggest skills you can teach your mind to do. It is by no way easy. It is human nature to automatically act on emotion. Whether that be a good or a bad one

So I challenge you today to “RIDE THE WAVE”. If you are having a bad moment in time, remember… This will pass. For it is exactly that, just a moment in time. Sit with the feeling and remember that.

Daily Gratitude

The word gratitude is derived from the Latin word gratia, which means grace, graciousness, or gratefulness.

Throughout this blog I have talked about some of my new daily healthy habits I have incorporated during these last 8 months. One of my habits is writing down three things I am grateful for. It is one of the first things I do in the morning before taking on the rest of my day. Often times, we focus on what we don’t have in life or we can get in the mindset of comparing our lives to others. I can not stress how toxic of a mental state that is and hence why social media can be so destructive for modern day mental health. It is extremely easy for people to feel insecure in a world of social media highlight reels. You have to disconnect regularly. It is so crucial, yet difficult because we have everything at our finger tips, literally! Learn to disconnect to reconnect.

Three Things I am Grateful for Today (10/22/20):

  • My health
  • My family (and dogs!)
  • My personal relationships

These don’t need to be wordy or complex. Do not over think these, for there are no right or wrong answers! They have apps for daily gratitude. A popular one is called, “Five Minute Journal” which is AWESOME. I highly recommend checking it out if you need some structure to start out with. I used this from March until end of May, but then moved to pen and paper. There is something about hand writing my daily gratitude list. It is almost like the ink to the paper makes these things manifest more. Writing these things down disconnects us from toxic, negative emotions that we sometimes focus on as human beings. This is normal, do not beat yourself up over having these thoughts. Train your mind to be like a flowing river of thoughts. Don’t hang on the highs for too long, don’t hang on the lows for too long. Let the thoughts flow.

Expressing gratitude has a ton of benefits:

  • Reduces stress
  • Increase in happiness and mood. Enhance positive emotions
  • More satisfaction through day to day life
  • Helps celebrate the present
  • Strengthen your social ties with relationships and self-worth (self-esteem)
  • Improves health, both physical and psychological

Get into the daily habit of this. It only takes a few minutes of your 24 hour day and the upside of life improvement is tremendous. It is a fantastic investment in your mental health growth. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish the good experiences, improve health, deal with adversity and help build strong relationships. Try this everyday for two weeks and you will see a difference.

Grateful for your time and for finishing my blog!

Internal Mirror

2020 has been quite the year. Being in universal quarantine has given not just myself, but the whole world a time to really look at yourself in the mirror and self reflect on the last _ years of your life. You find out what has worked. You find out what hasn’t worked. You find out what tools you are going to use moving forward to come out of this pandemic stronger and a better version of yourself.

What is something you’ve learned about yourself over the last month?

Don’t just read that above question out loud. Really think and sit on that for a bit. Challenge yourself.

2020 has truly taught us the value of “time”. Kobe Bryant’s sudden death that shocked the world has heighted this value that we sometimes don’t always take the TIME (no pun intended) to stop and think about the concept. I have made it a point to know the true value of time. Life is too short to linger on problems and lose your courage over.

This Coronavirus is fucking horrible, BUT you have to find the small silver linings in tough situations like this virus has handcuffed us in. This virus has taught us the meaning of our priorities in life and what is truly important as we go through our day to days. Health, family and friends are just three of the many things in our life to be grateful for and not a day should go by where these are looked over or taken for granted(above paragraph for reference). We as a society have come to appreciate this more during the global lockdown. Crazy what can be taken away from you at any point in time. Even your own freedom to eat a damn burger inside!

So to answer the originally question, What is something you’ve learned about yourself over the last month?

I have learned to love myself more. I have learned to prioritize my health both physically and mentally. Using tools that were always there in my arsenal, but never seemed to utilize. I learned to put on my running shoes, chuck the airpods in (no free ads) and go for a run after work to decompress and compartmentalize my work days. This assures me that if I have a bad day at the office, I don’t bring it home with me and let it affect my 5:30pm on. I have learned to drink less with a conscious focus on moderation. The toxic social cycle of drinking two days a week and then going out heavy every weekend takes a massive toll on you mentally.

Like running, I have used the art of yoga to not only help me physically, but mentally AND spiritually. The work I put in on the mat gets reflected off the mat. I am not only benefiting myself, but everyone I interact with after! A true win win for everyone involved in my life. I find myself running around a lot (especially mentally), so yoga gives me an excellent carved out space in my day to slow my mind down and focus on being present in the flow practice. Also don’t hate the fact that I can feel myself becoming more flexible by the day! Yoga has so many benefits and I can’t recommend “Yoga with Adriene” enough (Check out her YouTube page). I have seen an increase in muscle strength and tone, better respiration and energy, and even a better sense of improved athletic performance. It pairs very well with my running practice.

Some people hate this year and the number sequence of “2020” gives them PTSD already, but I have enjoyed this time of self reflection. I strongly believe that I have become and will come out of this time a much better version of myself than I came in with.

2020 isn’t over yet, go finish it out strong and build daily healthy habits!